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The White Boy in the Third Row
Last week, I was on the stage of an auditorium in a huge
Washington DC public school, presenting with Jason Reynolds the novel we
co-wrote together, All American Boys. Put simply, the novel is about two boys,
one black, one white, who must decide what role they will each play in their
community after the black boy is brutalized by a white cop and the white boy
witnesses it happen. And while the story is told in alternating chapters from
the two boys’ points of view, it is also about the effect the violent
interaction has on the families, friends, teachers, and other community members
around the two boys.
For the last three weeks, Jason and I have been doing nearly
three presentations a day to middle schools, high schools, libraries,
bookstores, and non-profit organizations in cities across the country. At each
event, we have to be clear, concise, and direct, because everywhere we go, no
matter the demographics of the community we’re speaking to, we’re talking about
police brutality, racism, institutional racism, and white privilege. We feel
committed, and we try to remain as humble and honest as possible, because it is
a hard conversation to have, but we have been invited to these places to have
it, so we’re going for it.
As I sat on the stage in DC, and looked out over the crowd
of 300 students in the auditorium, I was reminded of the courage and honesty of
the kids who deal with all of these issues in a real way everyday. They asked
tough questions: “Why are more people of color the victims of police
brutality?” “Why does it feel like my neighborhood is under Marshall law?” “Do
you think Black Lives Matter or All Lives Matter, and why?”
We’ve been answering these questions everyday, and by being
forced to speak about it all so often and so publicly, I’ve grown used to
answering these questions as quickly and directly as possible, while still
trying to be thoughtful and conscious of context and impact—but I know I need
to try much harder to be more thoughtful of both.
This particular DC school’s population was very diverse (in
the true sense of the word), and while I do not have the actual statistics of
the demographics, a scan of the crowd gave me the impression that there was a
broad mix of black, white, Asian, and Latino students—and we were conscious to
try to answer questions from kids of all backgrounds. We always carve out a
substantial portion of our presentation for questions, because no matter where
we are kids always have tons of questions. And at this event, I saw a white boy
in the third row with his hand up for nearly the entire time. Before we left, I
thought I should call on him. When I did he asked, “Do you think you will turn away
white readers from your book by having a white cop beat a black boy in the
first chapter? Are you afraid that by writing a book like this, you will turn
away white readers from your book, or even turn away more white people from the
whole Black Lives Matters movement?”
I was stunned. I’d thought about people not liking the book.
I’d thought about the danger of someone hearing about the book and dismissing
it before reading it—not realizing the complexities and nuances Jason and I
tried very hard to add to all the characters’ lives in the novel, cops
included. But I’d never thought that the book might do danger to the very
people I claimed to be working with in the Black Lives Matters movement. I had
to take a breath. I’m so glad I did, because if I’d just answered straight from
the gut, I’d have said something dumb, no matter how factually correct, and I
would have done exactly what he was warning me about.
After the breath, I gave him the short, most honest answer I
could after he made me reflect on it. “Yes,” I said. “But I’d like to explain.”

I don’t know where the question was coming from. He could
have been the one kid in class arguing that All Lives Matter. He might have had
a police officer in the family. He might have been arguing that by talking
about race, we make it all much worse. But he also might have been genuinely
worried—maybe he was struggling with how to talk to other white people about
all these difficult topics, too?
I wanted to address his question honestly, but not in a
defensive way, not in a condescending way—I was talking to another white
person, someone I hoped, if he read Quinn’s narrative in the novel, might feel
inspired to further educate himself about the tentacle-like effects of white
privilege as they reach out in all directions around him, even if he is in a
very diverse community.
As a white man, I don’t believe I should take an “us” versus
“them” approach to other white people. How can I? Because I’ve begun to think
and feel more critically about my own white privilege than I used to, have I
somehow abandoned my whiteness?
No. The white boy in the third row is also me. How do I sit
in his shoes, shoes that I can most easily slip into, and dialogue with the man
on stage imploring everyone to recognize why the Black Lives Matter movement shouldn’t
be seen as a threat to our community and country, but instead is simply another
step in the long march for social justice and equity?
I took a little longer than usual answering his question. I
explained that we tried to recognize the humanity of all the characters in the
book, including the police officers, and we tried to be as crystal clear and
honest about the fears all these characters have, what each of them wants to
protect, and how the recognition of those fears and the decision to confront
them shape the narrative arc of the book. In a sense, we hoped that we could
write a book that didn’t push anyone away, but rather recognized and honored
the nuances and complexities in the fictional community in the novel, as a way
to recognize those same nuances and complexities that exist in the real world.
I don’t think there are many people in the world who wake up in the morning,
twist their moustaches and contemplate their evil, villainous plans for the
day. But there are, without a doubt, many of us who wake up with good
intentions, but as we proceed with our day, impact others in devastating and destructive
ways—and it is the impact, not the intention, that lasts. Therefore it is the
road from those intentions to those impacts that we need to be critical of,
that we need to better understand, that we need help deconstructing so we can
lessen, avoid, or even stop, each other from delivering those harmful impacts.
I believe, at the end of the day, there are more of us who
want to lessen that harmful impact, and we all need help (especially those of
us who are white) holding each other accountable. I’m grateful for my wife, my
friends, and my family, who all help me in this, and I’m grateful too to all
the people I’m meeting while out on the road talking about All American Boys.
For example, elsewhere on the tour, at another festival, a
middle aged white man walked up to me and Jason and told us that he was the
father of two black boys he and his white wife had adopted. He told us that he was reading All American
Boys with his sons and, in effect, he explained that it was just one more small
piece in his on-going process of trying to better understand his own life in
comparison and contrast to his sons’ lives. “When I heard my sons talking to me
about their lives, I had to listen,” he said. “So I’ve been listening and
learning and after years of doing this I feel a little more like a whole man.”
Those words nearly broke my heart. I could have sobbed in
the convention hall. Instead, I swallowed them as a reminder that I need to do
a better job, too. That I’ll always need to do a better job. That there is no
arrival point. I’ll never arrive at some point where I’m outside the system of
systemic racism—I’ll always be in it, and because I am, I have to do the best
job possible calling people into the conversation that recognizes it, in order
to do the work to try to deconstruct it. I’ll always need to do a better job
“calling people in” rather than “calling people out.”
So, thank you white boy in the third row. Thank you for calling
me back in.
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Brendan Kiely received an MFA in creative writing from The City College of New York. His debut novel, The Gospel of Winter, has been published in eight languages, was selected as one of American Library Association’s Top Ten Best Fiction for Young Adults 2015, and was a Kirkus Reviews selection for best of 2014. He is the co-author, with Jason Reynolds, of the novel All American Boys (S&S). Originally from the Boston area, he now lives with his wife in Greenwich Village.
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